End Stigma Surrey reflects on Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month and encourages everyone to keep the conversation open throughout the year
As November wrapped up, so did Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month—a time to reflect on the unique challenges men face when it comes to mental well-being. In male-dominated spaces like construction sites, many offices, sports teams, or even local pubs across Surrey, mental health conversations are often overlooked. But why? And what can we do about it?
Stigma happens when people feel embarrassed or judged about something, like struggling with mental health. For men, this can be especially tough. Old ideas about masculinity—being strong, tough, and emotionless—make it hard to admit when something isn’t right. In environments where banter and bravado can dominate, showing vulnerability might feel risky, even if it’s what someone needs most.
Imagine you’re on a job site or in a team meeting, and someone asks how you’re doing. It’s easy to reply, “I’m fine,” even if you’re not. Men often fear that opening up could be seen as weak or might change how others treat them. This is especially true in tight-knit spaces where reputations are built on reliability and strength.
Many men don’t even know where to start. Terms like “mental health” might sound vague, or the process of seeking help could feel unfamiliar. The result? Struggles get buried, and things like stress, anxiety, or depression go unaddressed—sometimes until they reach a breaking point.
Stigma creates silence. It stops men from reaching out, even when they need it. It also discourages others in male-dominated spaces from starting conversations that could help. Over time, this silence takes a toll: mental health problems can worsen, affecting relationships, work, and physical health.
The good news is stigma can be confronted—and beaten. Here’s how you can help make a difference:
- Start Small Conversations: You don’t have to launch into deep talks. A simple “How’s it going, really?” can open the door for someone to share if they’re struggling.
- Lead by Example: If you’re comfortable, share your own challenges. When one person speaks up, it makes it easier for others to do the same.
- Challenge Unhelpful Comments: If someone jokes about mental health or dismisses it, gently call it out. “Actually, a lot of people struggle—it’s not a weakness.”
- Promote Resources: Surrey has fantastic support options, from local counselling services to helplines like Samaritans (116 123). Let others know help is available, and it’s okay to use it.
Real strength isn’t about bottling things up; it’s about showing up as your best self for your family, friends, and community. Talking about mental health and supporting one another makes everyone stronger, not weaker.
As November ends, let’s commit to keeping the conversation alive—not just for a month, but every day. Together, we can create spaces where men in Surrey feel supported, understood, and free to speak up. Because mental health isn’t a weakness; it’s part of being human.
